May 12th, 2009


Words do have power.  After all, God actually spoke creation into existence.  THE Word (Scripture) says that life and death are in the power of the tongue, reminding us that even our own words carry life and death – and the choice is always ours to make.  However, that particular conversation is for another time.


What I am led to speak about now are the words I am inclined to share with others:  personal words of “wisdom” I offer to someone seeking my input.  At the time they are spoken, I think the words are good and life-producing.  However, the Lord recently reminded me how the well-meaning words of others had caused me a significant amount of pain.  Some of the words spoken resulted in the loss of relationships.  I know that the Father’s love does not “remember” a wrong that has been forgiven, and indeed I had forgiven those who had hurt me.  Therefore, I understood immediately that His reminder was an invitation to me, to re-examine the well-meaning (and often well-thought-out) words I offer to others.  (NOTE:  this message is not speaking about the Gift of the Spirit called ‘a Word of Knowledge’, which comes exclusively from the Holy Spirit and bypasses my intellect completely.)


At the prompting of the Lord, I immediately began to search my heart, and ask myself some hard questions.  When I have offered someone a word, whether or not it was solicited, where did I get that word?  Did I have knowledge about the subject?  And if so, from where did I get that knowledge?  Books?  Other people?  My own personal experience?  Did I just grasp for something to say?  Or, was it truly a word from the Lord in due season, perfect for edification and instruction?  Did I take the time to check that out?  Did I pray until my spirit was at peace with the matter?  Or did I just allow my flesh to jump in and puff itself up?  Pride always wants to know the answers, and it especially wants to make sure others are aware that he knows the answers.  Have I put down my pride, or have I simply masked it in a religious pose?  How many souls have been wounded in the process?  I do have a certain amount of wisdom; however, every ounce of that wisdom was Divinely imparted into me through the Holy Spirit.  I must remember that wisdom is much different from thoughts, or ideas, or assumptions, or opinions.


When I share my opinion without the leading of the Holy Spirit, I can stir up a lot of trouble for myself and others.  First of all, if I am truly a bondservant of the Lord like I claim to be, then I will resist offering an opinion.  Servants do not have the luxury of expressing opinions.  Second, I must remember that my opinion will always be clouded by my own personal bias and by my mood at the moment.  Passing that on, at best, bears little fruit; and at worst, can open the door to destruction in the life of another.  The next thing I know, my attempt to encourage that person has backfired, and he walks away confused and discouraged.  I have now opened a door for the enemy to torment the person who received my words, and to dump guilt and condemnation on me as well.


I absolutely must avoid the trap of merely speaking out of my own experience, as if my conclusion or assessment holds the key to unlock someone else’s mess.  My own method of experiencing victory could carry much weight in the eyes of another, but rarely will it hold the solution to another one’s woes.  Like snowflakes, no two problems are exactly alike.  It is dangerous to invite another to apply my solution to his problem – I have learned that lesson the hard way.  Someone else’s decision to take this very action caused me several seasons of tremendous pain, and it altered the course of my life.  Yes, he was well-meaning, and yes, the second party sought that opinion and chose his actions based on the words he received.  However, I was the innocent recipient of the consequences.  Yes, God allowed it.  He used it to work a new thing in me.  And in the aftermath, He brought healing and blessings – and complete forgiveness.  That said, I must admit that I sometimes wonder how our lives would have been different had someone else not infused his solution into our issue. 


Walking through this experience has prompted me to pray often for the grace to guard my tongue when I am tempted to offer up my own words and opinions.  Because I have experienced the pain of being on the other end, I can say without reservation that only God knows the best solution for each problem.  Only the Word of the Lord in due season can heal, and draw one into the symphony of a life created to blossom in the garden of God.  I must always seek His words when I have the honor of speaking into the life of another one of His precious children.  So long as I am walking in His light, He will expect no less of me.


How do I avoid this pitfall?  It gets a little easier when I remember that someday I will be called to account for every word and deed attributed to me.  I must continuously ask the Lord to bathe me in humility, and to teach me how to guard my heart and my tongue.  I must never forget that I am a child of the Most High God.  When I know who I am, and when His opinion of me is more important that others’ opinions of me, I will discover that I have less to say and less to prove.  Only when Jesus becomes first in my eyes can I risk being last.



As I was in the final editing process for this piece, I woke up in the middle of the night with a word in my spirit that I knew came directly from the Lord.  It said, “Add a P.S. to your piece and declare the following:  Every time I step out ahead of the leading of the Holy Spirit and His absolutely perfect timing, and I offer a ‘key’ that unlocks the door to your problem, that word becomes a crutch to you.  It tempts you to allow someone else to solve a mystery God intentionally concealed for you to discover, and you miss out on the glory of searching it out for yourself.  Furthermore, if you do not learn the lesson for which the mystery was offered, then you will have to go around that mountain again.  O God, forgive me for every time I have committed this error!  Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my Strength and my Redeemer.



Proverbs 15:23

A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, and a word spoken in due season, how good it is!


Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.


Proverbs 25:2b

It is the glory of God to conceal a matter, but the glory of kings is to search out a matter.


Psalm 19:14

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my Strength and my Redeemer.


John 16:13

However, when He, the Spirit of Truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak and He will tell you things to come.


Proverbs 18:21a

Death and life are in the power of the tongue…


  1. V Says:

    Wow. stinks to learn things without encouragement at times, but God help me to press in, not be swayed, but persevere to the finish line. WEll put mam.God bless u.

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